"I just lost my best friend" Jordan cried, as she fell on our bed late one Friday night. My heart just broke for her. Rob was an amazing young man and we all loved him.
Memories of the past began to fill my head. Our oldest Jolene thought she would die when the school hunk stopped calling her. Jacque, our second oldest, let her guy go (although there was no mourning over this and her check book began to recover from it's great depression) and then there was Jerrilyn's love of a life time, or so we thought. All partings bring certain emotions, how would Jordan handle losing her best friend? She had spent so much time and had so much fun with him over the last 16 months.
As I laid in bed and sympathised with Jordan a song began to play in my head. "They say that breaking up is hard to do. Now I know, I know that it's true. You say, 'This is the end' Instead of breaking up, I wish that we were making up again."
One teenager asked me, "How long will I feel this emptiness? How long will I be sad?" I pondered for a moment and then said, "When you say....'This is the end!'"
When King David's son was sick he prayed and fasted. But when the son died (no chance of survival) David got up and worshiped the Lord (2 Samuel 12:16-24).
Are you suffering from a broken heart? Is there no chance of survival in the relationship? Then start praising God. Thank Him for the relationship and find all the wonderful things that it taught you. Praise God that it didn't work out because God has something better for the both of you.
Has it been a long time and you still can't let go of this person? Then ask yourself two questions: Did I see myself through this person's eyes (Do you feel less because of their rejection)? Did you go too far physically and now the two of you are one spiritually?
If the relationship went to far then ask God for forgiveness. Ask Him to break the soul ties that connect you to the other person and then know that you are free. If you see yourself though their eyes ask God for forgiveness and ask Him to give you His perspective and identity.
Beth Moore, a great Bible teacher, says, "You are, who God says you are!" Ask Him who you are.
When will the pain end? When you rewrite the chorus, "I know we're breaking up and I'm going to live my life again!"
As for Jordan, breaking up was hard to do, but she knows that God has a plan and He has one for you.
